When you have a new lens on life

22 01, 2017

There is cause for hope, America!

By |January 22nd, 2017|

I have just returned from a wonderfully exhausting day at the Mall in Washington DC. There, I marched with two other local Asheville activists and many friends from the Human Rights Campaign.
How amazing to be surrounded by 500,000 of my closest friends! All day long, our chants chorused across […]

11 10, 2016

McCrory’s HB2: Another Republican Exploitation of Women

By |October 11th, 2016|Tags: |

McCrory and I agree on one thing: the women and children of North Carolina – and those in the rest of the country – desperately need protection. We disagree, though, on how prioritizing this discriminatory bill solves anything.

Let’s back up. On an average day in America, almost 2,000 adult women […]

7 03, 2016

Mother and Child Reunion

By |March 7th, 2016|Tags: |

Pamela Valentine publishes a wonderful blog, Affirmed Mom, in which she tries to share the perspectives and experiences of transgender families.  I especially love one of her most recent posts: To Mourn A Child.  What a beautiful story. What a wonderful mother.

I just returned from a weekend with my own 83-year-old […]

7 03, 2016

I am STILL Not Cait

By |March 7th, 2016|Tags: , , |

I recently published a blog suggesting that people stop viewing I Am Cait. A day later, I saw a message from Jennifer Boylan, encouraging people to watch the new season. She promised that there was some hard-hitting dialogue ahead. She also admonished us to be more civil. I am, if nothing […]

5 03, 2016

I am NOT Cait!

By |March 5th, 2016|Tags: , , |

Caitlyn Jenner’s notion that she can be trans ambassador to the President – to Ted Cruz of all people – sickens me. Here is a report of her interview with The Advocate:
She called Cruz a ‘great constitutionalist’ and said she would like to advise him on questions relating to her […]

27 02, 2016

My Fifty-Year Journey Out of Shadow

By |February 27th, 2016|

For fifty years, I struggled with the pain and confusion of living in the wrong gender. When people hear this, they generally assume that this means that I spent fifty years wanting to play dress-up; fifty years wanting to become a woman.

Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, […]

25 02, 2016

Identity Wars, Part 1: Getting Past Passing

By |February 25th, 2016|

I can’t seem to get through a day without some discussion of my identity:

… You’re not a woman. Give me a break!
… How dare you call yourself a woman! You haven’t a clue what we have gone through! You are hurting us politically.
… Honey, if you were really a […]

24 02, 2016

How We Get to Die / Philadelphia Trans Women Remembered

By |February 24th, 2016|Tags: |

When I transitioned, I worried constantly about becoming a victim of violence. I consulted the Transgender Violence Tracking portal, which seeks to report incidents of violence against transgender people.  The portal reported 268 murders in the 12 months between November 19, 2013 and November 14, 2014.  I composed this summary of […]

11 10, 2015

Being a Trans Ally Isn’t About Defending Our Gender

By |October 11th, 2015|Tags: |

 It is about welcoming us into the world – and into your lives – as a human.

We don’t understand our gender any more than you do. We don’t choose it. It is the only way we know to process the world around us – whatever that may mean.
Most of us […]

10 10, 2015

Transgender Soup for the Soul

By |October 10th, 2015|

I. You Are a Gift.
Your gender has nothing to do with your worth as a human being.

You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.

Your gender is not broken. It is neither more nor less than anyone else’s.

It is a part of your fingerprint on the universe. Be proud to […]